Praise be to Allaah.
We are happy that you mentioned your love for your mother and
your kind treatment of her and your keenness to make her happy. We ask Allah
to reward you for that with the best of rewards and to bless you with
righteous offspring who will treat you well, for the reward is of the same
nature as the deed. Honouring one's parents is one of the greatest acts of
worship and righteous deeds. Hence Allah mentioned it alongside worship of
Him and affirmation of His Oneness, as He said (interpretation of the
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him.
And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them
attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout
at them but address them in terms of honour.
24. And lower unto them the wing of submission and
humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they
did bring me up when I was young’””
[al-Isra’ 17:23, 24].
Al-Nasaa’i (3104), Ibn Maajah (2781) and Ahmad (15,110)
narrated from Mu’aawiyah ibn Jaahimah al-Sulami that Jaahimah came to the
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of
Allah, I want to go out and fight (in jihad) and I have come to consult you.
He said: “Do you have a mother?” He said: Yes. He said: “Stay with her, for
Paradise is beneath her feet.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) saw a Yemeni man
circumambulating the Ka’bah, carrying his mother on his back, saying: I am
her humble camel; if other mounts spook easily, I do not. Then he said: O
Ibn ‘Umar, do you think I have paid her back? He said: No, not even one
contraction. Narrated by al-Bukhaari in al-Adab al-Mufrad; classed as
saheeh by Ibn Hajar in Takhreej Ahaadeeth al-Kashshaaf, and by
al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Adab al-Mufrad.
What you are doing of going for ‘Umrah every year and taking
your mother with you, is a great good deed, so carry on doing it and do not
stop. Perhaps the good situation and abundant provision that you enjoy are
because of your honouring your mother and treating her well.
We say to your dear wife: You should be happy with this good
conduct and help your husband to do it, and be certain that this spending
will never be wasted with Allah, and that the goodness and blessing of it
will come back to you and your children in sha Allah. It will not cause
wealth to decrease; rather it will increase it and bless it and cause it to
grow. You should praise Allah as He has blessed you with wealth so that you
may use it to obey Him, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) said to ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allah be pleased with him): “O ‘Amr, how
blessed is the good (halaal) wealth that belongs to a good (righteous) man.”
Narrated by Ahmad (17096); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
And he said: “There is no cause for envy except in two cases:
a man to whom Allaah gives wealth and enables him to spend it in support of
the truth, and a man to whom Allaah gives wisdom and he rules in accordance
with it and teaches it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (73) and Muslim (816).
If you feel some resentment because your husband treats his mother so kindly so often, then put yourself in her position and see how happy you would be because of this treatment and how much you need that and other kinds of kind treatment and care.
We ask Allah to bless you both and to increase you in righteousness and good deeds.
And Allah knows best.