Praise be to Allaah.
We praise Allaah for blessing you with guidance and
righteousness. We ask Allaah to make us and you steadfast in doing and
saying that which pleases Him.
The believer turns to Allaah with regard to everything that
happens to him, he turns to Him for all his needs. For Allaah is the One Who
responds to the one in need when he calls upon Him and relieves his
suffering. Allaah has told us that He is near and responds to the prayer of
the one who calls upon Him. Du’aa’ is like a weapon in the hands of the
believer, which he should use properly. So call upon Allaah and be certain
that He will respond, and pursue the means of having your du’aa’ accepted,
and choose the times when du’aa’s are answered. You can refer to question
no. 5113 to learn
more about these means.
I would also like to point out a matter that is of the utmost
importance, which is that Muslims, men and women alike, should protect
themselves from the things that lead to forming an emotional attachment to
someone who is not a spouse. Of course a person may have no control over
love, [?] but he or she may do things that lead to an increase in emotional
attachment, such as conversations between a man and a woman that lead to
stirrings of emotions and desires. This is forbidden as a means of closing
the door and so that a person will not form an emotional attachment to a
person whom it is difficult to get married to, which will lead to hardship
for both parties and will distract the heart from its obligation to love
Allaah and obey Him. Please see Question no.
Hence we advise you to pray a lot of istikhaarah and make
du’aa’ and turn to Allaah. We ask Allaah to decree good for us and for you
in this world and in the Hereafter, and to make this thing easy for you if
it is good for you. And may Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet
Muhammad and his family and companions.