Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
It is permissible for a man to arrange a marriage for his
young son even if he has not reached puberty; it is also permissible for him
to arrange a marriage for his young daughter even if she had not reached the
age of puberty. It was narrated that there was consensus on this point, but
that is provided that compatibility is taken into account and that a clear
and real interest is served by this marriage.
Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The scholars are unanimously agreed that the father may
arrange a marriage for his young daughter without consulting her. The
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) married
‘Aa’ishah when she was six years old.
End quote from at-Tamheed, 19/98
Ismaa‘eel ibn Ishaaq (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The father may arrange a marriage for a young (daughter)
according to the consensus of the Muslims, and that is binding on her.
End quote from at-Tamheed, 19/84
Ibn Shubrumah disagreed with that, as we shall see below.
Secondly:
It is not prescribed to arrange a marriage for a young girl
unless there is a clear and real interest to be served by doing so. The same
applies to young boys, but the ruling is emphasized more with regard to
girls because a boy has the power of divorce (talaaq).
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
It should be noted that ash-Shaafa‘i and his companions said:
It is recommended for the father or grandfather not to arrange a marriage
for a virgin until she reaches the age of puberty and he seeks her consent,
lest she find herself trapped in a marriage that she resents. What they said
is not contrary to the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah, because what they meant is that
he should not give her in marriage before puberty if there is no clear and
real interest to be served by that for which there is the fear that it will
be missed by delaying marriage, such as the story of ‘Aa’ishah. In that case
(i.e., if there is a clear and real interest to be served) it is recommended
not to miss the opportunity to marry that husband, because the father is
enjoined to take care of his children’s interests, not to neglect them.
End quote from Sharh Muslim, 9/206
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was of
the view that in the case of a girl who has reached the age of nine years it
is stipulated that she give consent and he said: This is the view favoured
by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, and this is the correct view.
With regard to the girl who is younger than the age of nine
years, he favoured the view that the father does not have the right to
arrange a marriage. He narrated from Ibn Shubrumah (may Allah have mercy on
him) that he said: It is not permissible to arrange a marriage for a young
girl who has not reached the age of puberty, because if we say that that is
subject to her consent, her consent does not count (because she is too young
to make such decisions), and when she does reach the age of puberty we
believe that she should not be forced into a marriage. The Shaykh said: This
view is the correct one, that the father should not arrange a marriage for
his daughter until she reaches the age of puberty, and when she reaches the
age of puberty he should not arrange a marriage unless she gives her
consent.
But if we assume that a man regards this suitor as compatible
and he is old, and there is the fear that if he passes away and guardianship
of the girl passes to her brothers, they may not take the matter of her
marriage seriously and they may arrange her marriage according to their
whims and desires, not according to what is in her best interests, and he
thinks that it is in her best interests to arrange her marriage to someone
who is compatible, there is nothing wrong with that, but she will have the
choice when she grows up; if she wishes she may say: I do not agree to this
and I do not want it.
If the matter is like this, then the safest option is not to
arrange her marriage and to entrust her to Allah, may He be glorified and
exalted. Perhaps now he thinks that this man is compatible but then the
man’s situation may change, and perhaps when she reaches the age of marriage
Allah will bring her a man who is better than this man, because all things
are in the hand of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted.
End quote from ash-Sharh al-Mumti‘, 12/57-59
The Shaykh also favoured the view that marriage should not be
arranged for a boy until he reaches the age of puberty.
Ash-Sharh al-Mumti‘, 12/53
With regard to consummation of the marriage with a minor, it
does not become permissible by merely drawing up the marriage contract;
rather the husband should not consummate the marriage with her until she is
able to have intercourse, which is not necessarily at puberty. This is
something that varies from one environment and time to another. With regard
to that, sharee‘ah pays attention to physical makeup.
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Thirdly:
From the words of the Muslim fuqaha’ concerning this issue,
it is clear that marriage of minors is based on achieving clear and real
interests thereby. If marriage of a young girl will serve some very real
interest for her, then her guardian may arrange a marriage for her, but if
no real interest will be served for her by that, then he does not have the
right to arrange a marriage when she is still a minor, until she can choose
for herself and give consent.
That is not a transgression against her rights, as may be
said with regard to the trustee’s handling of the orphan’s wealth; it is
permissible for him to buy and sell on his behalf without obtaining his
consent, if that serve a clear and real interest and is more beneficial for
him and his wealth.
The view concerning young boys is the same as that concerning
young girls; it is essential for the guardian to take into consideration
what interests may be achieved for the minor thereby.
This is applicable in all cases in which Islam gives
permission to conduct affairs on behalf of another and gives guardianship of
another. Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him)
said:
If a person has authority to handle the affairs or wealth of
another, either as a guardian or by appointment as a proxy, it is not
permissible for him to do whatever he wants; he has to choose that which is
in (his ward’s) best interests.
End quote from Mukhtasar al-Fataawa al-Masriyyah, 796
Based on that, one should take the appropriate approach to
the emotional aspect of this issue, because choosing the right person for
the woman in terms of his character and choosing the right time for
arranging this marriage is in fact paying attention to the woman’s natural
and emotional needs and inclinations. Emotion here does not refer to love
relationships and infatuations that may occur between young men and women;
these relationships and ideas are one thing and the reality of life is
something else. How many marriages have started with these relationships but
soon failed, and how many marriages have started without prior acquaintance
between the spouses but Allah created love, compassion, tranquillity and
harmony between them, and they continued to live happily together.
And Allah knows best.