Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly: it is obligatory for the believer to obey the
command of Allaah and the command of His Messenger (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him), even if that goes against his desires and choices.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“It is not for a
believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter
that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys
Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”
[al-Ahzaab 33:36]
“The only saying of the faithful believers, when they are
called to Allaah (His Words, the Qur’aan) and His Messenger, to judge
between them, is that they say: ‘We hear and we obey.’ And such are the
successful (who will live forever in Paradise).
And whosoever obeys Allaah and His Messenger, fears
Allaah, and keeps his duty (to Him), such are the successful”
[al-Noor 24:51-52]
If the believer heeds the command of Allaah and the command
of His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), then he
will be rewarded for any difficulty that he encounters because of that.
Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to
‘Aa’ishah: “Your reward will be commensurate with your spending and your
effort.” (al-Bukhaari, 1787; Muslim, 1211).
With regard to the ruling on this issue:
It is not obligatory to use water in order to remove any
impurity that is left after relieving oneself, rather it is sufficient to
use pebbles or tissue or any other things that may remove impurity. The
evidence for that is the report narrated by Ahmad (23627) from ‘Aa’ishah,
that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “When any one of you goes and defecates, let him take with him
three stones and cleanse himself with them, and that will be sufficient for
him.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’ (44). Ibn Qudaamah
(may Allaah have mercy on him) narrated that there was consensus among the
Sahaabah that it is permissible to use only stones and that it is not
obligatory to use water. Al-Mughni, 1/208.
Although it is permissible to use just stones or tissue, it
is preferable to use water. The evidence for that is the report narrated by
al-Bukhaari ((150) and Muslim (271) from Anas ibn Maalik, who said: “The
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to
enter the washroom and I and another young boy like me would bring a leather
vessel of water, and he would clean himself (istinja’) with water.”
Al-Tirmidhi (19) narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said to the women:
“Tell your husbands to clean themselves with water, for I am to shy to tell
them. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) used to do that.” Classed as saheeh by al-Nawawi in al-Majmoo,
2/101. Al-Tirmidhi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said following this
hadeeth: “This is what should be done according to the scholars who
preferred that istinja’ (cleaning oneself after relieving oneself) should be
done with water, but if it is done with stones that is good enough in their
view. But they regarded it as mustahabb to clean oneself with water and
regarded that as preferable.”
So if you use both tissues and water, that is the best; start
with tissue then use water.
See al-Majmoo’ by al-Nawawi, 2/200
And Allaah knows best. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.